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I really wish someone on the far right would explain their strategy to me. What I dont get is this: if their goal is to protect marriage, why in the world are they wasting all this time, energy and money to keep gays from marriage while there is no shortage of straight marriages crumbling all around? I think the truth of the matter is that the National Organization for Marriage (NOM) is a total sham. It should be named the National Organization Against Gay Rights. One is hard pressed to see any action of that group as having even the remote connection to protecting marriage.

Yesterday, South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford showed up after missing for almost a week to announce that he has been having an affair with an Argentinian woman. Not only has his infidelity rocked his family (which by itself is plenty of damage), but additionally, he left an entire state without leadership and those who could be in charge – he hadn’t even spoken to. Imagine if something catastrophic had happened and there was no one in charge? Not only is this infidelity hurtful to his wife and family, and a complete abandonment of everything he supposedly believed in, there could not have been a more irresponsible action by an elected official.

So, what do you think NOM had to say about this bad guy’s destruction and abuse of marriage?

Nothing. Not one word.

And he is just one of three. The 3rd high profile republican “family values” leader who has fallen from their pedestal recently. From my perspective, this is problematic from several aspects.

First of all, infidelity hurts many people, and anytime there is cheating in a relationship, there is no real trust, and without trust there is no real intimacy. The affair is just a symptom of a deeper problem with is a emotionally and spiritually bankrupt relationship. so, aside from who it is- republican, democrat, straight or gay- lying and cheating and having affairs that you keep from your spouse is the farthest thing from healthy.

However, that these things happen, and happen with far more frequency than (at least the RNC) would like, poses another, and potentially bigger problem for the traditional family values cheerleaders. At it’s core, there is nothing about traditional family values that works in and of itself. sure, straight marriages can and do exist. Many are based on love and all sorts of good stuff. But is this because they are fundamentally wired to be successful (as opposed to same-sex relationships are hard-wired to fail and incapable of being healthy)? No. It is because the individuals in them work hard and make it work. That they have one man and one woman, doesn’t make that easier or harder. Two men or two women can form and grow a healthy, loving relationship just as easily. So the base tenet of traditional family values “working” because of a heterosexual marriage, is bogus.

A second claim made for why same-sex marriage isn’t acceptable is that children need a father and a mother.I would contend that no child needs to be in any family relationship where there is such dishonesty, lack of trust,m and a willingness for one parent to cheat on the other . Those who condemn gay marriage because f how it will affect the children are blindf to the fact that 50% of straight marriages end in divorce and kids are torn between two parents.

However, the biggest issue, as I see it, is that it seems that those who crusade against Gay Rights in general, and Marriage Equality in specific most loudly. Those who seem to go out of their way to be leaders against GLBTQ people, often display the having the biggest problem walking the walk that aligns to the moral rantings that defines their position.

If these people really cared about Marriage, they would stop worrying about Gay people and our relationships and work on their own! And let’s to call a spade a bloody shovel! the NOM isn’t about Marriage. It is about restricting the rights of gay and lesbians.