The linked story is from the Seattle Times and describes the possibility for same-sex marriage to pass the Washington Senate, however, I was very intrigued by this quote:

“The supporters of the bill determine you’re a ‘hateful bigot’ if you vote no, while the opponents question your faith and say you’re ‘turning your back on God’ if you vote yes,” Hatfield said.

I wonder how we frame and work towards full civil rights by talking about real people and real relationships. This is a problem with so many controversial issues. The rhetoric and the tactics become about galvanizing difference, and creating entrenched inflexible positions. This slows progress because the very act of entrenchment is one taken to stop movement in either direction.

But same-sex marriage isn’t just a conceptual or moral, or ethical, or political issue. It is about the lives of real people. It isn’t all about God, or homophobia, or any other external. It is about how two people create a life together, support each other and protect each other and themselves as a couple.

The quote is from a politician who has more recently become a religious man.

Hatfield said it was an issue he was grappling with because he understands the opinions on both sides. He has become a devoted Christian in recent years but also talks with liberal groups. He said that he was simply “torn” by the debate and the backlash sure to come no matter what his decision is.

This too is a process of coming out. When individuals bgiin to seek and do what is right for the whole and in the process of that they must confront issues within themselves.

via Local News | Gay-marriage bill may be within reach in Senate | Seattle Times Newspaper.