We take some comfort in believing that we hold the ability to control when and to whom we are going to come out. But when something public, like this now famous kiss happens, the tables are turned, and we have lost a little bit of that control and the fears are more evident.
This is the type of situation where it would be easy to just keep sexual orientation out of it. Why take the risk at offending readers to the site, right? But what happened is the opposite, and Brad’s item has had a very large number of views and received great comments. He comes across as authentic, real, proud of himself, and unashamed about his life- all of his life.
The linked story is both scary to read and alarming given the general impressions about what the end of DADT would accomplish. The story is worth your time and reading on its own merits, but I also want to use it as an illustration of another point. Laws alone do not end anti-gay efforts. The legacy of DADT is an ingrained hostility to gays and a lifestyle that for years was either illegal in the[Read More…]
In this way, coming out is radical action or activism. It is a willingness to make our whole selves present and visible to others at every choice we make.