For me, one of the smallest results of the recent Supreme Court marriage equality decision, is that I’ve started to refer to my husband in conversations, as “husband.” We had been together for 15 years prior to getting married, and married for about a year when the decision came down earlier this summer. Previously, even after getting married, I was more likely to use the word “partner.” My rationale was that we had been together[Read More…]
I’ve been online for the past 40 minutes awaiting the ruling regarding same-sex marriage in Pennsylvania and a little over six minutes ago, Twitter lit up with announcements that the judge had ruled Pennsylvania’s ban on same-sex marriage unconstitutional. AS of this moment, there has been no stay requested or granted, suggesting that marriage licenses may be available very soon. Several Pennsylvania counties were making arrangements to be ready earlier today. The ACLU has announced[Read More…]
For the last person at work who got married, my coworkers held a bridal shower, but in our case there was no bride. So for Brad and me they had a celebration luncheon. Whatever name gets attached, it was a memorable and touching experience. Time after time, as Brad and I move through this journey to being spouses, I am reminded how getting married is far more than a legal recognition of our relationship. We[Read More…]
the short version is this: the public library is a foundational institution of freedom. Librarians have been on the front lines protecting privacy and the freedom of expression, assembly, and speech. Libraries serve as a space where many young guys and gals found books and images that helped them come to terms with their own blossoming sexual identity.
The other week I saw that someone had started a thread on LinkedIn, asking ‘what is your fairy tale wedding’? To be honest, my first thought was to be highly critical. Â Equal marriage rights is so completely not about fairy tales, but about real people and real lives. The whole institution of Marriage can seem pretty screwed up and partly because many hold this fairy tale image of what Marriage is and should be. And[Read More…]
After we left the restaurant, and I was climbing into my car, he said something about how everything was looking up for me. The new car, work, my health.. and he said, “and your getting married!” with a big happy smile on his face.