Remembering Why We Push for Equality

February 6th, 2010 Comments

One of my readers (on eof the most awesome of my readers) sent me this link about Brendan Burke.

According to news reports, a black Jeep heading east slid sideways into oncoming traffic and collided with a westbound pickup truck Friday afternoon. The driver of the truck escaped without injury, but Burke and 18-year-old Mark Reedy, both of whom were in the Jeep, were killed; in the blink of a teary eye, two young lives came to a heartbreaking end.

I blogged about Brendan and his father Brian. It was a big deal story as Brian is considered one of the toughest men in pro hockey, and Brendan was headed for a career in pro sports.

At the time, the story was mostly about two things: how a father accepted and loved his son unconditionally, and this coming out happening in the realm of pro sports. But it was easy then to see this and every story as being about the big picture: gay rights, equality, and justice. But underneath those “big frame” concepts, was a story of a real boy and a real father, and a real relationship between them. For Brendan now, it won’t matter if gays can marry. But it mattered to Brendan, every day of his life that his father loved him.

Any of us who work and advocate for full equality do so, not to win some big conceptual battle, but because real people who live real lives, and have real relationships matter. Because life is unpredictable, and each of us want to make the most of the days we have. It isn’t good enough to know that at some point in the future gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgenders will have full equality. What is “good enough” is to make sure that each and every day we each are doing something to bring that reality into being now. Brendan’s coming out was one such action. Activism and advocacy are for and  about real people, real lives and real relationships. Activism and advocacy are about changing the world in which we live here and now, so that there is less fear, bigotry, rejection, isolation, and danger.

My thoughts and praters go out to Brendan’s family, friends and loved ones.

The Hockey News: Sam McCaig’s blog: THN.com Blog: Death of Brian Burke’s son reinforces what’s really important.

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Gays in the military: Fisking Bill Kristol

February 4th, 2010 Comments

The link below is to an post on the Economist. It is an excellent read, and I encourage everyone to dig into it. The piece uses a column by Bill Kristol and responds to the points of his argument. It is all good, but I want to focus on one small concept in it.

So what institution does the president want to subject to an untested, unnecessary, and probably unwise social experiment? The U.S. military.

Social experiment? Open and peaceful cohabitation with non-heterosexuals is a social experiment that has been going on for decades, with fairly good results.

We see this type of fear mongering language so often anytime issues surrounding gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and queer people are concerned. “Social Experiment, as if equality is an unknown adventure full of potential danger.

This is ludicrous for two reasons. First, a large number of other countries across our globe already allow openly Gay and Lesbians to serve in their military. Our soldiers have been fighting side by side with them for some time now. There is no experiment here, but there is a body of evidence that this works and works just fine.

The second point is possibly more subtle and potentially more important. Where are experiments done?  In Science. The far right and radical Christian movement is battling Science everywhere that it can. From claiming that dinosaurs were only 6000 years old and existed on the Ark with Noah and all the other animals, to the battles against contraception. These conservative and theocratic oppressors dictate that the Bible is to be taken as the literal word of God, but Science- especially experimentation- is scary and wrong.

Check out the entire post, and add your comments and ideas here.

Gays in the military: Fisking Bill Kristol | The Economist.

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Every Fag Needs To Care About Football!

February 4th, 2010 Comments

I know that the stereotype is that lesbians all love football, and gay men don’t know a football from a soccer ball, but in reality, many gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender folks love the sport. I am not one of them, but I have on a few (very few) occasions enjoyed watching the game. But this year’s Super Bowl is different. I think every “not straight” person out there needs to care about the Super Bowl for two reasons. The first, is an advertising and homophobia angle, and the second is described further in the linked story below, from Joe.My.God

Homophobia and Advertising

The station has chosen to accept an ad from the Focus on the Family crazies, yet has chosen to reject an ad that would be pro-gay. On the one hand, that is enough to make me say, boycott the show, but in reality, that wouldn’t help anyone. More important is to keep voicing opposition to the showing of the Focus ad. The National Organization for Women have a call to action- a way to protest CBS. Here’s how:

https://www.now.org/contribution.php?id=&code=A102A1XXXXXX&str=&srce=em020310

Support Scott Fujita

But my favorite part of this story is Scott Fujita. Fujita has been supportive of gay and lesbian rights in a way that few Pro athletes dare to be, and he is gettibg some flack for it

Joe. My. God.: A Reason To Care About The Super Bowl.

Respecting Women

Planned Parenthood has a response video that I think is really good too:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/02/03/planned-parenthoods-tim-t_n_448535.html

The conservative movement, especially the far radical right is working to take back advances made in civil rights on every level, and they are doing it using whatever means possible. But any of us who value liberty, free speech, and equality for all, must be willing to push back and not accept the misinformation, lies and manipulation, anywhere and everywhere it shows itself.

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Transmen:A Different Perspective

January 31st, 2010 Comments

I have posted things and written about transgender  issues and perspectives quite a bit on my blog, and I’m grateful for the amount, and quality of dialogue that has grown from these posts. so, I was happy to see today, on Twitter, a link to the blog post linked here.  The author, Noah, adds a new voice (new as it is a voice that hasn’t been heard on my blog before) and has a refreshing and meaningful way to express his ideas. I hope you take some time to read his whole blog entry lined below, but here is an excerpt:

I’m happy to say that I am completely male… I just happen to be female bodied. I never plan on having bottom surgery as a penis does not make me a man. My feeling male makes me a man.

I do everything a man is ’supposed’ to do. I play video games, I love movies, i’m not that interested in fashion, I enjoy looking at beautiful women (and alot of beautiful men too), I pee standing up, I even shave although I’m not yet on Testosterone. So surely I’m a man? My friends know me as a man, the actually don’t know any different. My parents are beginning to accept me as their son and my girlfriend, although a lesbian, accepts me as male. But would my status within my friends change if they were to find out that I don’t have a penis and testicles like they do?

The T Word: The ‘Male’ view of Transsexualism and Transgender?.

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Writing Discrimination Into the PA Constitution

January 29th, 2010 Comments

Harrisburg, PA – Tuesday, January 26, 2010, State Senator John H. Eichelberger, Jr. formally introduced Senate Bill 707, a joint resolution to amend the Pennsylvania Constitution to include the definition of marriage as being between one man and one woman…

If you are a regular reader of my blog, you know that while I’m all for Marriage Equality, when it comes to Pennsylvania, it is low on my list of issues to work towards. In a state where a person can be fired for simply being gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered, what is the value of having gay marriage? The simple act of applying for a marriage license could place many people across the state in jeopardy of losing their jobs, being denied housing or public accommodations. but for me, this move by Senator Eichelberger isn’t really about gay marriage. At it’s core, it is all about writing discrimination into the PA constitution, and that is just plain wrong!

Now, the reason they want to write discrimination into the constitution, is in the hopes of slowing down any progress towards marriage equality. I almost wrote “killing the possibility of marriage equality.” But we know from looking at other states, that when brought before the courts, constitutional bans are seen as unconstitutional. So, in the end, even if this makes it into the constitution, at some point farther down the road, it will be found to be unconstitutional, and will eventually be overturned. but when and at what cost, both in literal dollars and other ways?

Opponents to same-sex marriage claim that whenever this issue is put up to a vote by the people it loses. That is not really a fair statement. A more accurate statement is this: Whenever same-sex marriage is put up for a vote by the people, opponents can launch a campaign of fear mongering, lies and misinformation that is successful at scaring people to vote “No”

Pennsylvania already has a law that bans same-sex marriage. Is there really a need at this time to go farther and write discrimination into the PA Constitution? Is this what we want our senators and representatives spending their time on in Harrisburg? Is this the state we want to see for our children, our families, our friends and our neighbors? As a state, we already see young people leaving in droves, moving to other places across the country where they have a better chance at a full and happy life. Do we really want to continue to push people away by stepping back in time and embracing discrimination?

The following 15 state senators are co-sponsors of the PA Marriage Amendment! Join me by calling them and asking them to remove their sponsorship from this legislation.

  • Sen. Richard Alloway: 717-264-6100
  • Sen. Michael Brubaker: 717-627-0036
  • Sen. Jake Corman: 814-355-0477
  • Sen. John Eichelberger (Lead sponsor): 814-695-8386
  • Sen. Edwin Erickson: 610-853-4100
  • Sen. Mike Folmer: 717-274-6735
  • Sen. John Gordner: 570-784-3464
  • Sen. Richard Kasunic: 724-626-1611
  • Sen. Bob Mensch: 215-529-1215
  • Sen. Raphael Musto: 570-654-1483
  • Sen. Jeffrey Piccola: 717-896-7714
  • Sen. Robert Robbins: 724-588-1323
  • Sen. Joseph Scarnati: 814-726-7201
  • Sen. Lloyd Smucker: 717-397-1309
  • Sen. Donald White: 724-357-0151
  • Sen. Gene Yaw: 570-322-6457

via Senator Eichelberger.

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The State of the Blog (was:Group protests Notre Dame)

January 28th, 2010 Comments

I friend sent me the link below- I’m guessing as a follow-up to my post yesterday. I wanted to pass it along. I started to write this blog post about it, and then realized after 500 words, that what I really was writing was my State of the Blog post. I promise to tie the two things together by the end.

I have to admit, I have really been in a funk recently. While I was not extremely active in the last presidential campaign, I did some work to get Obama elected. I was not a Hillary fan. I expected that if Hillary was the candidate, she may not be electable, given how much conservative Hilary hating there was out there, and I wasn’t sure if she would be much different than Bill Clinton, who got elected for the right reasons, and then blew it in the White House (poor choice of words maybe). Clinton was the start of the deregulation of Wall Street and the changes to the Banking industry that set up  the recent financial collapse.

I not so sure if Hillary would be in any better place right now. Obama did bring so many Clinton types into his administration. But I did expect him to follow through on his promises and to be smarter than he has been. But, I do think it is time to start considering who to support for a Democratic competitor for the 2012 election.

And, while I have no trouble pointing a finger at Obama, he alone isn’t the problem. The Democratic leadership in both the House and the Senate are incompetent, while the democratic caucus seems utterly clueless. and one of my biggest worries is the recent Supreme Court decision about corporations and Free Speech. Imagine: if the group, focus on the Family (which is supposed to care about families?) will lay off hundreds of workers who need a salary to support their own families, but they will buy advertising for the Super Bowl- I can imagine how much more various groups and corporations will pour into politics to buy the elections of far right conservatives who will work to take away what few rights GLBTQ’s have now.

And, I’m doing much work around the issue of issue advocacy. I started working on a book; I’m now on the board of the Delta Foundation, and leading the development of a Western Pennsylvania GLBTQ Issue Advocacy initiative; I’m still writing this blog and posting the 2 Minute Activist to YouTube. But much of this (especially writing for the book, and writing for the blog, has become excruciatingly hard., I think partly because I am not sure how we continue to make progress on GLBTQ issues while our political system is so utterly broken.

I couldn’t watch the President last night. I knew that I was already so angry that it would just infuriate me more . But as he laid out his assessment of where we are and plans to move forward, I’m doing the same.

More than 100 students, faculty and community members walked onto Notre Dame’s campus Wednesday to protest the university’s anti-discrimination policy and to push for a gay-straight alliance group.

There is an alternative to being so enraged at the Democratic Party, and our broken government. Get involved. Not involved in the simple, get out and vote way, but really engaged at giving voice to your needs and demands. Like the protesters at Notre Dame did, demanding a GSA. One of the things I liked about this action was the non-political aspect of it. Our political system isn’t working for gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, and queers. We can’t give up on it entirely- we must stay engaged and work for change within it. but we also need to seek out other avenues for change. I’ll write more about this idea in another blog post where I can focus on it alone.

Get involved also means that we must deal with the politicians that we have, even if they seem utterly useless (so many of the democrats) or hostile (so many of the republicans). We have to “protest” them in ways that will make a difference. Marches and big protests are not always very effective at causing real change. They are good to build enthusiasm among supporters, and they work, like this blog: as a way to articulate ideas to an audience. But they can be hard to organize, and can be dismissed by the people who really need to hear those ideas. Another way to “protest” our elected officials is to talk with them. To sit down, face to face, and have a dialogue about the issues that are most important to you the constituent. I’ll devote a blog entry to this idea too.

via Group protests Notre Dame’s “anti-gay” policies.

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Dreams Of Hope Performance This Weekend

January 27th, 2010 Comments
Dreams of Hope

Dreams of Hope

The teen group, Dreams of Hope, uses art, performance, and music as a way to develop leaders from the gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and allies communities. These kids are truly amazing, and anyone will find something important and of value in their performance.

January 31st, 2010, 4:00 PM:
First Comes Love…
August Wilson Center
Season Preview – Free, Followed by Reception

Dreams Of Hope.

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Today Is Iowa Gay-Straight Alliance Day

January 27th, 2010 Comments

Last year, when Iowa adopted same-sex marriage, most, if not all of the press it received claimed major surprise. Could this really be Iowa? Was this midwestern state really farther ahead than California and New York? At the time, I shared some of the surprise, and figured the advancement of marriage equality was the product of timing and circumstance. But when I saw this posted to Twitter today, I realized that it had been far more than merely timing and circumstance. Iowa, really is ahead of the curve in terms of creating a space where equality that grow.

Governor Chet Culver proclaims Wednesday January 27 Iowa Gay-Straight Alliance Day. This is the fourth year of Iowa’s GSA Day – and Iowa is the only state in the nation with such an event.

There are a few words thrown around when discussing gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and queer (GLBTQ) rights. Equality, Tolerance, Liberation are but a few. Unpacking the language used around these issues is a blog post all by itself. But there are two points I want to make today.

Today honors Gay-Straight Alliances in high schools and colleges.

The day, organized by Iowa Pride Network seeks to honor student GSA groups in high schools and colleges that work to end violence and harassment of students including those that are GLBT.

Meanwhile here in Pennsylvania, our currently recognized state-wide organization has two bills introduced in the house, that don’t seem to be going anywhere fast. Maybe the approach is all backwards. By focusing almost exclusively on legislation, we are missing the opportunity to change public perception and build alliances. Yes, in Iowa, the far right has tried to overturn same-sex marriage, but the vast majority of Iowans are fine with letting it be.  We don’t have that broad level of acceptance that Iowa seems to demonstrate. The moderate stays more moderate in Iowa- or so it seems.

GSA’s make a difference!

GSAs decrease absenteeism, name-calling, harassment and assault. According to the 2007 Iowa School Climate Survey, in schools with GSAs, GLBT students are:

· 25% less likely to be verbally harassed because of their gender

· 23% less likely to skip class

· 23% less likely to be physically assaulted because of their sexual orientation

· 21% more likely to report never having been sexually harassed at school

· 12% less likely to be physically harassed or assaulted because of their gender expression

Where is our governor?

This is the fourth year for this event, and I have to admit, I feel a bit jealous. Here in Pennsylvania, I don’t think it is a secret that our governor is more supportive of GLBTQ rights than he is against them. But where is his public statement or any public notice from him on our issues? Governor Rendell hasn’t even publically come out and spoken in favor of the passage of HB 300, a nondiscrimination bill that covers housing, employment, and public accommodations.

I believe the thinking is that most of the state is more conservative, and so it is better for the governor to be quiet. But what does Iowa say about that type of strategy?

We have two democratic candidates running for governor. Take a few minutes to pick up the phone or drop them a letter and ask them: Will you be more voal on GLBTQ issues than the current governor?

via Iowa Gov. Chet Culver proclaims ‘Iowa Gay-Straight Alliance Day’ | ProudParenting.com.

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Does Prejudice Seek Truth?

January 26th, 2010 Comments

Fellow blogger Matt Algren, dissects part of the testimony from the Federal Prop 8 trial, and makes a very important statement, that I felt deserves repeating:

Notice that both times, William Tam answered a question of fact with a statement of faith. He knew that NARTH was an unreliable source, but he wasn’t looking for reliability. Science and truth were irrelevant; cast aside in favor of someone who would pat him on the back and tell him that pursuing his prejudices was good enough.

He’s not alone in this. By design, campaigns of prejudice are based on the gamble that most people will stop looking for facts if someone backs up their prejudice. That’s why anti-gay industry leaders like  NARTH (and in turn, William Tam) rely singularly on extreme statements of emotion and fear.

There are two groups of people out there, that those of us who seek equality for lesbians, gays, bisexuals, transgenders and queers need to be concerned about- There are those who oppose us, and then there are the politicians whose votes we need to pass legislation. Truly, sometimes an elected official falls into both categories, but the distinction is still meaningful.

We can talk till we are blue in the face at those voices who seek to  oppress us, but we are generally talking past them, and they are stuck in the “statements of faith.” arguments. On the other hand, elected officials, no matter if they are for us or against us or somewhere in between, by the nature of their job, need to be collecting facts and listening to all of their constituents.

One place we often fall short as activists, is getting enough people to speak up in support of LGBTQ causes. Out elected officials hear/ receive letters and phone calls from those who seek to oppress us, but we (those of us who seek full equality and our supporters- they don’t hear from us. We are often good at telling each other why we feel equality is important, but we fall short in redirecting that towards legislators who can make a difference.

The only way to fight prejudice is with facts and shine light on the reality of life for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and queers. Taking 5 minutes to write a letter (that isn’t a form letter) that says, “this is how [name your legislation of choice] will impact me, and my life and my friends or the people I care about…” can have huge impact.

“This is how [name your legislation of choice] will impact me, and my life and my friends or the people I care about…” is a statement of fact, and not a statement of faith. When fear rules, we lose. When the only voices heard by elected officials are those spreading exaggerations, lies or statements of faith, we lose. But we win, when the statements of facts are heard. Add your voice to the growing sound of truth and real facts.

PS: Thanks to Matt for his continued great work as a blogger!

NARTH, William Tam, and the Key to Anti-Gay Hate | Asterisk.

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Western PA Political Rally Planning Mtg

January 24th, 2010 Comments

Pittsburgh Pride, or more accurately, the collection of events that all together serve as Pittsburgh Pride, have grown by leaps and bounds over the past few years. Events like Pride in the Streets, have really helped put our Pride celebration on the map. I was at an event last week, where someone from Boston was saying that he found our Pride to be one of the best Pride events anywhere.

It is time to take it up another notch, and add another event to the diverse  collection of activities, and we need your input! So, please come and participate in a planning meeting for a political rally. Details are on the Facebook event page linked here:

Facebook | LGBT Political Rally Planning Mtg.

Link to the official Pittsburgh Pride site:

http://pittsburghpride.org/

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